Lasting impression

Its not easy being amother. If it were easy fathers would do it.

The roles of a mother are endless, they pick up the children, they are the last to sleep and early to raise, they wake up in the night to check on how the children are sleeping the list is endless.

The life of a mother is an interesting journey and most men can’t handle it, they instead celebrate, the value added to the family by a mother bringing further another child. And looking at the emotional bit, a mother is drained by the screams, not knowing why the child is crying at a particular time, sometimes it is irritating, but the journey is fun.

Children come into our lives for just a short period, once they join higher institutions, they want to be independent and given chance they would want to stay alone after campus. Personally l left home in my senior six and after campus l never went back home.

The screams mother would have in the house were traded with silence and empty rooms. No more things littered in the sitting rooms, toys all over the house, the living room is now very neat and mother sits now to wait for her husband to return and give her company.

In this age of technology, we as parents are tempted to trade off our children’s time, with gadgets, smart phones, allowing them watch different channels etc. This is good, but what lasts in a child’s memory are the memories created during dinner time, stories to bed time, praying together, spending time and understanding our children shouldn’t be traded for anything in this world.
Reason is that they are in our homes, just for short while, not long they will be gone to start up a family.

Parents; Dad the destiny of your child, is determined by the time you spend with him, not the gifts you give them, Mom as a nurture; call out the different abilities in your child daily, affirm them, show them affirmation and accept the children God has given you. Every child wants to know their identity and they want to feel that they are part of a family; share your history, values and create strong connections with your children.

Remember they are are on a mission of being fathers and mothers tomorrow. Time invested in your children is never lost. Children will take you to tables of great kings or you will have a court case every now and then.

Mothers sometimes its overwhelming, but don’t give up on your children, no one can replace your position as a mother and Dad always remember that child carries your DNA, how are you taking care of your offspring?

I spent a lot of time with my mother while growing up, but her strongest weapon, was prayer; this time wasn’t traded for anything, each one in the house knew when it’s time for prayer, we had a prayer place in the house. We would close the house and read the word of God, each one had to share their learning from the passage before starting to pray. Up till today we all remember mom’s prayers and they have always followed us.

Both my parents rested in the Lord but l have great memories of them. We didn’t have a perfect family but l have great memories of the time they spent with us.

What is the memory, you have created in your childrens life. Is it positive or negative?

Gen 2:24 ‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.

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